Challenge Your Gender Bias at 40+
So, as a sort of continuation of my previous post, Stay At Home Dad, I wanted to ask you, yes YOU, whether you recognise Gender Bias in your own day to day thoughts and behaviours? It would be way too easy to ask if you actively expressed gender bias….I’ve tried that a few times and the initial answer is an overwhelming, NO!
Partly out of shame or embarrassment, sometimes out of genuine ignorance (yes that’s a thing), BUT sometimes, as a result of a need to continue deep-rooted traditions, cultures and ideas, customs, and social behaviour of a particular people or society.
Here’s that point where I say, “I don’t mean to offend…”, knowing full-well that I will… (Feel free to respond).
Don’t you think it is time we moved on from some of these (author takes a Deep Breath….that’s ME by the way…) outdated, prehistoric, behind the times, superannuated, vintage, antiquated, archaic, obsolete, old, out-of-date, outmoded, anachronous, antique, back number, dated, démodé, has-been, moth-eaten, old hat, out-of-style, passé, tired, unfashionable, aged, ancient, elderly, obsolete,
(another deep breath…. and yes I can repeat myself, it’s a rant…),
aspersing, belittling, calumnious, censorious, contumelious, critical, damaging, decrying, defamatory, degrading, demeaning, deprecatory, depreciative, despiteful, detracting, disdainful, dishonouring, disparaging, fault-finding, humiliating, injurious, malevolent, malicious, maligning, minimizing, opprobrious, reproachful, sarcastic, scornful, slanderous, slighting, spiteful, unfavourable, unflattering, vilifying…. practises? Don’t you?
I’m not saying I’m perfect, but I’m becoming more aware every day. And those little things, they add up. More so, if you’re a victim (I hate that word), ok, sufferer, maybe…?
The worst thing is inadvertently passing that behaviour onto your children, who start out with NO bias but will pick up everything, as sure as toddlers pick crumbs off the floor, especially when you aren’t looking.
Does gender bias have its place in today’s society?
YES, when ALL parties are in 100% agreement without any kind of coercion….(…ducks flying pig).
The idea that men are more confident and are better negotiators, or women are better team players and accept more challenges, is factual in as much as, “if you build it, they will come”.
Studies have been done proving as much,
But the results are also subject to scrutiny on both sides, and the results are there to be challenged and improved upon, by us, yes, you and me. They are not a hard and fast rule to live by.
There are things that you won’t know you can achieve until you try.
Check out Challenge Your Gender Bias (Part 2),
For another look at things that you should be looking out for, especially at work.
Can you see improvements that you can make in your day to day behaviour?
Are you subjected to bias and need advice on how to counteract it?
Are you tired of the gender bias argument and feel that we’re just fighting physiology?
Have your say.