- Taking charge of the mid-life change
To progress, we have to change. “Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything“, George Bernard Shaw once said. Change is not always inevitable, not when it is an internal change that is the catalyst for an outward course correction. Change is an active decision. Do you want to talk about doing something, or do you want to go out and just do it?
If all the world is a stage, then realise that you are the director of your play not an actor in it. Outside influences will always be there. The loss of a job, a spouse, your libido… What you do next is what shapes your future. To be an actor in your own play is to let these influences dictate to you who you are. Be a director; take charge of the change and use it to drive yourself forward.
- Take stock of where you are right now
A part of change is about taking stock of where you are, of where your life is right now. The mid-life change is you are coming to realise that something in your life has to give, one way or another. Maybe ‘life’ is just trying to remind you that you are, after all, fragile and you should probably take a breather?
Perhaps you just realise that maybe your talents and skills lie elsewhere, and now is the time to start that small business that has been your life-long dream? Whatever it is that your wellness decision has its roots in, changing gears and direction means taking stock of where you are today so that you can see where you could be tomorrow.
- To change, or not to change
Consider where you are right now. Consider the potential cost of doing nothing, and what does your tomorrow look like? Start by making a list of the things in your life that are working for you in a positive way. How many things are on that list, which would you consider to be priorities? There are no wrong answers – what works for you, may not work for someone else. On the other hand, maybe you have something today, that somebody else wants to be in their tomorrow?
Look at your list, how do those things make you feel? We need to focus on what works for us and count our blessings, all of us. Not everything in our lives has to change, just the things that don’t work for us.
It is all too easy to feel overwhelmed when we think ‘I have to change everything’. This leads us to sitting back, doing nothing and staying in that horrible job, that relationship that is no good for you… These roads lead to poor health, a life that you don’t deserve and a wasted future. There is no reason why things have to be this way.
Think again, of where you are right now, and the potential cost of doing nothing.
What would you put on your list of things that work for you? What makes you happy in your life and what would you change today to shape a better tomorrow?